How to handle a situation when you don’t want to have sex as much as your partner wants to
It’s very normal to feel your sexual desire shoot out the ceiling one day and have no traces of it the next day. Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. Sexual desire ebbs and flows. It’s also quite normal for your partner to have a higher sex drive than you do. But if you start to feel that your partner and you have mismatched libido, it might start to raise worries. Ultimately, it could even reflect on the quality of your relationship. And to deal with this, we’ve got you some tips to try.
02/6Talk about it
It’s always easier said than done. Talking about sex with your partner might put you in a very vulnerable place. But it can also mean that you both are working on this issue together and your bond might get stronger than before. Be honest and candid with your partner and figure out a solution together.
03/6Take into consideration how your partner feels
If the person you have sex with, suddenly tells you that their sex drive is dead, your first thought would be “What did you do to provoke it?” So the moment you tell your partner about your diminishing sex drive, they might feel the same too. They might even start wondering if you don’t find them attractive or if they did something wrong. Therefore, you need to make it clear and let them know how it’s not their fault at all. There could be several other reasons why you might be dealing with a low libido.
If you think talking with your partner won’t help you improve, you can consider going to a therapist. You can either go alone or with your partner. Therapy sessions can help you identify what is the actual cause of your low libido and figure out a way to solve the issues.
05/6Find out what you feel is sexy
If your libido is super low, you might want to figure out what turns you on. It could be a body massage from your partner, watching porn or even reading erotica. You could even try something as simple as date nights in and sexting your partner like you used to before. All of this could ignite desire and curiosity that can help you increase your sex drive.
06/6Consult a doctor
If your sex drive has continuously been falling down and this lack of desire is stressing you out, you might have a condition. This condition is known as hyposexual desire disorder (HSDD). It affects about 10% of women. Talk to your doctor about the symptoms and what you can do to help yourself. Treatments with medication can help increase your sexual desire.