1. Had a fight with your partner? Here’s how you can start a conversation

To be in a relationship and never having a fight with a partner is almost impossible. Constructive criticism or healthy fights help couples to sort out their issues and voice their pent-up emotions, thereby addressing those concerns that can otherwise wreak havoc in their life. However, a lot depends on how a couple behave after a fight and, especially, how they break the awkward silence after their quarrel. So, here are a few tips to start a conversation with a partner after a fight.

2. Send a romantic text message

Thanks to technology, there are so many ways to start a conversation now. If you are feeling too awkward to face your partner after a fight, you can always take the help of your phone to send him or her a sweet and romantic message. You can write about how much the relationship and your partner mean to you. But do not react or get angry if you do not get a response to your message immediately. Be happy that you made an effort to break the ice and that’s really praiseworthy.

3. Make a call

The next step after sending a message is to pick up your phone and call the person, irrespective of whether he or she has responded to the message or not. The best way to start the conversation is by exchanging pleasantries, although it might not be so easy to do that after an awkward silence following the fight. However, you should avoid playing the blame game because it will only aggravate the situation more.

4. Apologise

No matter how big a fight might be, an apology can do wonders to repair the damage it might have caused in the relationship. It’s always wise to owe up to your mistakes and saying a sorry is the best way to start a conversation with an upset partner. Remember, just apologising isn’t enough if you don’t mean it. It would be a nice gesture if you could furnish the apology with a token of love— a gift or chocolates and even a handwritten note can brighten up your partner’s day after that ugly fight.

5. Plan a dinner or date

We all must have felt at times how our atmosphere is saturated by our emotions, for example, after a fight it’s not surprising to feel as if the surrounding is filled with negativity. It’s quite normal. So, a change of scene might be helpful if you want to initiate talks after a lovers’ tiff. How about planning a dinner or a date at your favourite restaurant?

6. The good old way of starting afresh the next day

Sometimes, doing things the traditional way can be a big revelation. You can try sorting the differences by adopting some old tricks. How about starting afresh the next morning? Treat a new day as a new beginning and start it like you would otherwise do when you don’t fight with your partner. Maybe, prepare your lover’s favourite dish for breakfast and start the day with a hearty, “good morning!”

7. Take help if the situation runs out of control

According to experts, silence between partners can be more damaging than fights. Sometimes, we build such impregnable walls between us that it becomes impossible to get over these to offer the olive branch to a partner. Under such circumstances, it’s always wise to take help from reliable and trustworthy people to break the ice or, in this case, the wall of silence. Taking help of relationship therapists can also help couples address their concerns and encourage them to talk about issues that they otherwise brush under the carpet.

8. Forgive and forget

Here’s the best mantra for a successful reconciliation after a fight—forgive and forget. If you want to pick up the threads of a relationship after a quarrel with your partner, first you need to learn to forgive and forget. And only when you do that, you can help each other to get over your differences and strengthen the relationship. Also, it becomes easy to talk to a person when you have forgiven him or her, right? But you must also remember to forgive yourself because sometimes we are so engulfed in self-guilt and pity after a fight that it becomes almost impossible to pour our heart out after the incident.]

TNN/timesofindia.indiatimes.com