When that familiar notification pops up on your phone and the phone screen shows the name of the person who brought you countless heartaches, it can get chaotic.

When an ex contacts you after a long time, it can be pretty confusing. “What do they want?” is what circles your mind especially when you expect it the least.

And so, here are some possible reasons why your ex might want to hit you up after all this time:

Rebound relationships

Your ex might want to have a rebound relationship with you because he may have been in a bad breakup recently, so indulging in casual intimacy with someone familiar is a good option to forget their recent ex.

Getting back together

Most exes want to get back together when they feel they want to settle down and marry.

They may feel now is the right time to focus on relationships and live happily ever after with someone they had previously been in love with.

Fear of ending up alone

Your ex may fear ending up alone after running out of dating options. This fear may subconsciously force them to find love in a familiar space again.

This can feel quite insulting to you but it’s when you have to tread carefully.

Jealousy

An ex may contact you if they are jealous of how well you are doing right now.

Jealousy is toxic behaviour that can cause people to do unimaginable things. Your ex may be feeling the heat of letting you go.

Repeating mistakes

Getting back into an old relationship can be a big mistake, especially if the relationship was toxic enough for you.

Reliving the same moments of anguish, stress and heartbreak can be too much to bear when you have moved on past all that.