Have fun, swipe right, mingle with whoever you want but make sure you build a support system
For those who enjoy new adventures and exploration, imagine combining it with the joy of finding love, or even a romantic interest you simply hit it off with right after moving to a new city. It’s probably one of the most underrated adventures you could have. Whether it’s for a new job or because you need a break from your hometown – moving solo to a brand new place can be the beginning of exploring all the magic that lies outside your comfort zone.
A new slate
Undeniably, there’s that pressure to come across as someone who HAS a life – you have things to do, places to be, etc. When you move to a new city is also the time when your social calendar isn’t hectic. It could work wonders for you. There’s no one you know, and it is absolutely okay to say, “I’m doing absolutely nothing tonight” when a cute guy/girl asks you to join him/her for a cinema date.
Now, let’s just say you befriend a person and the two of you get along like a house on fire. You’re into him/her because, well, when you’ve just moved to an unknown city, without your usual friend base, chances are high that you’ll end up getting attached to the first person who makes you feel comfortable.
However, a warning
Though the cliched narrative might make you believe that from here onwards, everything goes perfectly, the dating game in a brand new city can actually become tricky at this point.
Firstly, without realising it, you may end up spending such a significant chunk of your time with your new love interest that you ignore potential friendships around you. You obviously don’t feel the need for anyone else, but do think about it… should this relationship sour, it’ll also mean you won’t have a support system around you.
Get a support system
That’s the thing about romantic bonds we form in unfamiliar places. They can start to seem like the only thing that makes the whole move worthy. It’s great while it lasts, but not every relationship can withstand the test of time. Also, you really want to avoid becoming like those friends we all
had back in high school, the kind who’d vanish the minute they got into a relationship.
While the thought of falling head over heels in love with someone in a brand new city can be rather exhilarating, it’s important to make decisions that aren’t too hasty. Have fun, swipe right, mingle with whoever you want; just don’t forget to make sure it’s not the only thing that’s making you happy.
(By: Tracy Ann)
