A soon-to-be bride has been told to ‘grow up’ after she revealed she went back on agreement for one of her best friends to be her maid of honour because of something that happened when they were seven.
The 23-year-old is getting married next year and says she has had the same group of best friends since they were all four years old.
When the group were teenagers they made a ‘circle system’ so that each of them would get the opportunity to be a maid of honour for another.
The woman was assigned a friend who she referred to as Grace, saying that she loves her to ‘absolute death’.
However, she also revealed: “I cant help but have a massive grudge against her because of something that happened when we were seven.”
She’s been slammed online after revealing it was down to Grace telling a teacher that she had once bullied her, leading to the woman getting a ‘massive scolding from her dad’.
When she met her soon-to-be husband the topic of weddings came up and she broke the news to Grace that she wouldn’t be her maid of honour because of the incident.
Grace assumed she was joking at the time but with wedding planning underway, the woman asked another friend to take on the role instead.
She says Grace had no recollection of the bullying report even happening, and argued that it was 16 years ago.
The bride said: “[Grace] was really upset claiming that the only trauma I experienced was my dad telling me off and that I need to stop holding such a grudge.
“I think she’s being really unfair. All of our friends have told me I’m an a**hole for not allowing her to be maid of honour but at the end of the day its my wedding and I’m not going to change my mind to appease her.”
Asking for advice over whether her decision had been too harsh on Reddit, she was scolded in the replies from other users.
“You are the a**hole because you and your friends came up with this ‘circle system’ way later than the incident that happened when you were SEVEN.
“If I were Grace I would feel really hurt that all of a sudden it’s my turn in the circle system and… wait, I don’t get a turn. It doesn’t sound like you ‘love her to absolute death’. Seriously you went on being great friends with her this long, and then you bring it up NOW?”
Another raged: “Dear god grow up. Have you ever thought that she believed you were bullying her and now you’ve chosen to take on the part of victim? You don’t get to decide when you have or have not bullied somebody.
“Seriously grow the hell up. I hope this poor friend cuts you out of her life because you sound petty as all hell.”
