How much is too much for a friend interfering with your relationship_
We’ve all had friends who are close to us and as we grow old, we learn that a close-knit friendship with two or three people is much better than belonging to a huge group of guys and girls. We learn to accept that these close friends are the ones who know the ins and outs of us. From all our stupid mistakes to our biggest achievements, they’ve been by our side at all times. These are the kind of people who won’t judge us for our decisions but accept us fully for our flaws.
Although, when it comes to relationships, we are all guilty of hiding a part of us from our partners. This could be because we assume that they will despise us for our flaws or will try and change us into their perception of a perfect partner. Either way, we’re always hesitant to disclose ourselves to our partners, which isn’t the case when it comes to our friendships. However, this doesn’t give our friends the license to interfere with our romantic relationships. What we have with our partners is completely different from what we have with our friends. And when our partners decided to date us, they did so under the impression that we, as individuals would deal with our feelings alone and independently. Therefore, in order to avoid unnecessary interference by your friends into your relationship, here is what you should watch out for.
02/6Know your limits
Your friendship and relationship are two entirely different entities and it must be handled that way. Don’t let these lines blue. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with talking about your feelings with your best friend, but you must know where to limit it.
03/6Don’t let your friend tell you how to act in your relationship
Your friends in no way have the right to dictate your relationship or making any decisions for you or your partner. Neither should you be the kind of friend who gives out unnecessary advices and makes decisions for any of your friends.
04/6Learn by making your own mistakes
When you are in a relationship, you have to learn to own your mistakes. Even when your friends might know what’s best for you, you shouldn’t let them stop you from making mistakes. Your friend isn’t in your shoes and your closeness with your friend will not give them an insight into what’s your equation with your partner.
05/6Know their intentions
If you’re really close to your friends, you might know that they come from a good place with the right intentions. But you should also learn to decipher if and when your friend is turning you against your partner out of jealousy. Be careful and watch out for such behaviours as it can ruin both your friendship as well as relationship.
06/6Balance it out
You are in a relationship, which means you might not be able to see your best friends that often. And this is completely normal. You will want your friends to understand this and your friends should give you your space too. They shouldn’t send you on a guilt trip by mentioning all the good times you missed with them just because you chose to spend some quality time with your partner. Find a balance between your friendship and relationship. It’s all about making time for the ones you love and also standing up for what you feel is right for you.