1. Does your dating life makes you feel stressed?
The initial phase of dating is generally full of excitement. You are meeting new people, and exploring what all the world of dating has to offer. But as time passes by and you still continue to struggle to find that special person, this charm might fizzle out and the idea of going on a date might seem not-so-exciting anymore. Has it ever happened with you? If your answer is a ‘yes’, here are a few questions you can ask yourself why dating seems to be a stressful affair and how you can deal with this scenario.
2. Am I meeting people the right way?
Before coming down to the conclusion there is no one meant for you, give a careful thought to how you are meeting people. It is very important that you know what kind of relationship you are seeking and then use the right platform to meet people. For instance, if you are using an app that is known for flings and quick dating, then the probability of finding your future husband or wife there is almost nil. If marriage is in your mind, creating an account on a site or app that is meant for people looking for serious relationships or using a matrimonial app is the right way to go about it. Also, why limit yourself to just apps or sites? You can try attending some parties, meeting mutual friends or ask your close friends to look for someone similar interests. Experimenting never hurts, right?
3. Am I overthinking?
Sometimes, we end up brooding over every little thing and making assumptions that might never come true. Do you end up thinking, “I am sure I was not looking good”, “It has been two hours and my date has not texted me back. It is not going to work out”, “I am not good enough” or anything negative that ruins your mood? Well, you cannot have a positive dating experience if your mind is full of negative thoughts. Sometimes, you need to give things time and go with the flow. You cannot control everything in your love life, and staying optimistic and pragmatic can help you to deal better with the situation.
4. Do I judge everyone too soon?
Do you give everyone a fair chance or start looking for another date the moment you get even slightly turned off? Sometimes, we judge people really quick and make a wrong perception about them. Maybe, your dating life would be less stressful if you start giving people a little benefit of doubt and try to understand them better before deciding anything.
5. Am I still nursing a broken heart?
It is obvious you would struggle to develop feelings for anyone new if you have not completely moved on from your past. Before stepping into the dating game after a break up, make sure you are in a happy space mentally. It’s important to step into a relationship for all the right reasons.
6. What about my expectations
Be honest and think about what all expectations you have from a prospective partner and relationship. Maybe, you feel bogged down in your dating life because you have unrealistic expectations and need to change your perspective a bit.
7. Do I ask the right questions?
Well, the type of questions you ask on a date can make or break the deal. If you start talking about marriage and kids, ask too many personal questions, talk only about your ex-partner on the very first date, you might not be leaving a good impression on the other person.
8. What do I have to offer?
Relationships require hard work and constant efforts from both the partners to make it work. Hence, to make your relationship or dating life less stressful, you have to invest your time and energy into the bond. If you struggle to spend quality time with your prospective partner or are not willing to adjust, you might find it difficult to develop an emotional connection with the person.
