couple fight

My partner and I hardly ever have sex. I am so frustrated but I love her too much to leave.

I am 28 and my partner is 25. We get on great, but she says sex is overrated and I can count on one hand the number of times it has happened this year.

I have tried to encourage her with sexy undies, toys, weekends away, but nothing works. It is driving me insane.

I keep reading stuff about our sort of situation and all I can see is breaking up, having sex therapy or an affair.

She won’t consider therapy and I can’t hurt her with the other options.

Maybe sex feels overrated to your partner because you have not figured out what really works for her.

Female sexual responses are very different from men’s – and very different from what you see in porn videos, which are positively misleading.