You must have heard this time and again that opposites attract. Some of us even believe this very strongly because of the movies that have storylines around this concept or because we read it in our favourite bestseller.
But when it comes to reality, there are hardly any cases of opposites in a relationship who manage to survive it all. Probably, these are the kind of people who acknowledge that they are total opposites but still know how to work their way around in a relationship.
Truth be told, most people aren’t attracted to opposites, even if it might seem so. It is very essential to realize what being attracted to a person who’s drastically different than us actually means.
This, in a literal sense, could basically mean that you and your partner have zero things in common. But in fact, you two might have more more in common than you think. People tend to gravitate towards people who have similar interests as them and who belong to a similar background too. Hence, opposites don’t really attract.
– Wondering if the difference between partners can cause problems? Couples who call themselves opposites are not necessarily prone to disagreements or conflicts than the ones who connect on more similar grounds.
People who like to call themselves as opposites than their partners, focus on more obvious grounds like clothes, outings, spending personal time. But another bunch of people like to focus more on what defines them and how they like to work as a team.
This means these people focus on overall attributes, values, beliefs, communication styles, etc. A couple might be opposite in their interests or in backgrounds, but values might align and that is the key to a relationship that survives.
– How to make a relationship work with an “opposite” person? Think about it like this – you need to be complementary to each other than being opposites. You can even think about your differences as a way to learn more about you and your partner’s growth. Be more curious about your partner and use conversations to know them better. How your partner is might slowly start to grow on you and vice versa. This can eventually make you both learn new things together and also grow fond of each other by trying new things for the other person’s sake.
