Renowned Ghanaian playwright and marriage counsellor, Uncle Ebo Whyte, has once again demonstrated why he remains one of Ghana’s most respected voices on relationships.
Drawing from years of experience, he shared deep insights and practical advice aimed at couples grappling with challenges in their sexual intimacy.
Speaking on Drive Time with Lexis on Thursday, July 3, Uncle Ebo addressed a delicate yet vital issue that many couples face silently: the gradual decline of sexual passion in marriage. With a compassionate but candid tone, he urged couples to avoid blaming each other or making excuses.
“If sex is struggling in your marriage, don’t blame each other. Don’t look for excuses or see each other as the enemy. You are causing it because you are not doing what you are supposed to do, and things come up that way,” he explained, cutting through denial to highlight the shared responsibility of both partners.
Uncle Ebo emphasised that the foundation of any healthy intimate relationship is a strong emotional connection.
“Life happens, stress happens, but you must keep the emotional connection alive. Sex may be struggling, passion may seem gone, but spend time talking—talk without anger, talk like you did when you first fell in love,” he advised, reminding couples that emotional intimacy fuels physical desire.
He highlighted a crucial truth that is often overlooked: the loss of sexual passion is not sudden, but a slow and creeping process.
“Sex does not vanish overnight. It’s gradual. You don’t wake up one day feeling excited about your partner and suddenly it’s gone,” Uncle Ebo said. “If you don’t pay attention to the small things eroding passion, one day you’ll wake up and wonder what happened.”
To illustrate, he gave relatable examples of how minor neglects and dismissals can build invisible walls between partners.
“Maybe your partner wants to share a special moment and you say, ‘I’m not in the mood.’ Or she wants to snuggle, but you reply, ‘I’m tired’ or ‘I had a long day.’ These little moments accumulate quietly,” he explained.
Uncle Ebo also stressed the importance of attentiveness and care during intimacy itself. Rushing through moments or neglecting foreplay can leave a partner feeling unfulfilled and disconnected.
“You might go straight into the act without the loving words or gestures that your partner needs, leaving them irritated or disappointed,” he noted.
Beyond physical intimacy, he reminded couples of the power of kindness, respect, and humility in sustaining passion.
“Little things, like being rude or refusing to apologise, gradually chip away at your bond,” he warned.
