In an interview on Daybreak Hitz with DJ Slim, the celebrated musician, known for his romantic lyrics, discussed the challenges of finding true love.

“It’s difficult to find love,” he admitted, adding, “I’m single but not searching.”

Reflecting on his past experiences, Kwabena Kwabena expressed optimism about finding true love in the future. “Yes, I have been in love before but had my heart broken,” he told DJ Slim.

The musician also emphasized the importance of finding the right partner, noting that “finding a wife is not an easy task.”

His candid reflections offer fans a glimpse into his personal life away from the spotlight, showing that even beloved public figures face similar challenges in matters of the heart.

Kwabena Kwabena, who has been married twice, is currently divorced.

He has his own school of thought on the institution of marriage that kept him away from involving in this business of life. On Friday, October 21, ‘The Pretty Boy’ took to Instagram and put forth the reason why he is not married.

He noted that the rate of divorce is scary and he does not want to add to the increasing numbers.

The post read, “Everybody always asks me when am I getting married and why am I not married? I’m not married for the same reason the divorce rate is so high. The only person I will truly trust is myself. Therefore it eliminates disappointment.”

In the caption, he mentioned that I have nothing against people who are married, these are just my personal beliefs. What are your thoughts on marriage?

This is coming after he denied being in an intimate relationship with Anna Monroe who he was rumoured to have been engaged to.

In the comments, he got mixed reactions to fans’ personal experiences.

As such, you need to at least look at how you can pluck yourself from this kind of misfortune.

Here are three disadvantages of being single for too long.

• You will always prefer the cheapest options available

When you are not in a relationship, you have nothing to commit to and nothing to work on and perfect. With all this relative comfort, you will drift into a dangerous plateau where you will be very comfortable with the cheapest options available.

From clothing to food and from friendships to the fulfilment of the adventurous instincts of your desires, you will always settle for options just below average and, on a few occasions, average.

This can be disastrous for your personal development. You can never grow when you are always okay with the cheap options.

• You lose interest in the surrounding

Your environment is a very important component of your being. You cannot thrive in an environment that you do not understand.

If you are to pursue personal development and the fulfilment of your goals, you will have to begin with an understanding of the very environment you live in.

Without such mastery, you will always find yourself drifting to the very deserted areas as far as personal development is concerned, which can be disastrous.

• You have no desire to make things right

When you are not committed to anyone, you can lose your situational and personal awareness instincts.

You will be subjected to many wrongs but you will have no desire to make anything right. You kind of ‘let everything happen as it deems fit.’

That is very disastrous for anyone willing to grow and become successful in life.

As relationships go, ours was still relatively new and I wasn’t all that sure about my overall commitment at that point.

When I learned about it I was off on a trip and so the impact didn’t really hit until I saw her again. When I did, feelings of disgust and betrayal came flooding in.

Little did I know, it wouldn’t be the last time I’d be cheated on. Over the years, a number my of relationships ended up with me being cheated on and being a victim of cheating in a relationship, including one engagement.

After a while, I wondered if I was a magnet for misfortune, but when I stopped feeling sorry for myself I realized something wonderful: the freedom of being single brings with it the benefit of knowing no one is cheating on you.

On the surface, that sentiment might sound a bit depressing but it really isn’t. Relationships aren’t for everyone, and most of the pain in life comes from trying to shoehorn oneself into situations that simply shouldn’t be.

Once I figured out my type, I also learned through tremendous amounts of trial and error that my type likes to be free. So why shouldn’t I be?

We’re conditioned to spend our lives chasing after “the one,” and more often than not, the harder we search for that person the more they simply never show up — or we mistake people for the one when they should be “one of.” 

Being single and dating brings a level of comfort to my life where I’m shielded from the bitter notion of investing my time and heart into someone who turns around and stabs me in the back with their infidelity.

If you’re still with me to this point, you might think that maybe being scorned, used, and abused tainted me. That I wouldn’t be so jaded if I had the love of my life right next to me. Not necessarily so.

As I mentioned earlier, much of the pain in life comes from trying to force situations. Much of this comes as a result of preconceived notions of what relationships “should” be.

Many affairs come as a result of one or both partners failing to live up to the fantasy set forth by what a perfect union should look and feel like.

With cheating, the story is usually the same. Sometimes it happens because of neglect and inattention; sometimes it happens because the relationship’s gone past its natural expiration date. And instead of splitting up and finding new people, you choose to exist as virtual roommates if you’re married, or simply live in pointless denial if you’re not.

So many of my friends and acquaintances are going through their first and even second divorces because of infidelity, largely brought on by a simple desire by one of the parties to sleep with other people.

The same goes for relationships where I’ve had to listen to horror stories of finding out that the person who was supposed to be their “forever” was doing the forever with someone else.

Hearing those stories like a broken record only makes me feel better about being single. Maybe this won’t always be the case. Maybe someday my true princess will come and said princess will be all-in because I’ll be all in.

And after all the crap that comes from surviving infidelity, I’ll finally do things to keep the fires burning until we have our Notebook moment where we die within minutes of one another and float up to whatever resembles Heaven, where our spirits will dance together into infinity.

I just hope to hell the grass isn’t greener on the other side of Heaven. I might be screwed.

In an interview with online portal, Nkokonsa.com, Fantana revealed she is single because men fail to approach her due to extravagant demands.

“Yes I don’t know why but they are afraid to approach me, I just don’t know why. Don’t be afraid but if you are not rich don’t approach me; if you are rich you can approach me,” she warned.

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Explaining the correlation between love and money, the ‘Rich gyal anthem’ artiste justified it is impossible to feed on love, hence she will not settle for less.

“Because you can’t love me if you can’t buy me gifts and everything that I need, then you don’t love me. I am not going to chop love,” she said.

Revealing her worth, Fantana hinted she looks attractive because she spends on quality; adding her hair costs GH¢ 4,000, outfit $80 coupled with YSL bag for a whooping $2000, Versace Versus and diamond bracelets.

As ‘Messiah’ played from the studio during the station’s mid-morning show, Work and Happiness, ASP Sarpong revealed that Adom FM was the first radio station to play the song after its release last month.

He explained that the song was “intended to praise and give thanks to the Lord Jesus Christ for his protection of the righteous”.

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“Messiah” also bestows all authority unto Jesus Christ for His contribution in saving humanity from bondage,” he explained further.

The singer has won many awards in the Vodafone Ghana Music Awards, Ghana Music Awards UK and other internationally recognised award schemes.

He was also honoured with a Legendary and Doctors Award in Jerusalem for his contributions towards the Christian faith.

KABA and George Hansen were at the peak of their careers. The former, was a prolific radio presenter, and the latter a dexterous sales executive. But their lives ended too abruptly, leaving their colleagues hurt and distraught.

If The Multimedia Group was a mother, she would be mourning the death of a husband, a son at the same time, in the same year.

But in the darkest hour of grief came a sudden surge in strength; bolstered by the enduring belief and Joy in the Lord. In unity came victory and in victory came a new song and The Multimedia Choir was there.

The company has, through the choir, picked itself up from the ashes of pain and heartache death brought, to a place of celebration.

Now, the choir wants to share that joy with the rest of the world. Their very maiden single, titled ‘Victory’ featuring Calvis Hammond and Omari Kissi was birthed in a difficult period to uplift the brokenhearted and also thank God for His grace.

The song was composed and arranged by Groovy Eye (George Addo Jnr) with inspiration for the Psalm 116-3-4, which says;

the anguish of the grave came over me;

I was overcome by distress and sorrow.

4. Then I called on the name of the LORD:

The nondenominational Christian music group is largely made up of team members of The Multimedia Group in Accra. CEO of the group, Kwasi Twum has been a staunch supporter of the choir from its inception and has members sing at various Company events.

Music Director, George Addo Jnr, says the journey has been a difficult one but the group is comforted by the milestone that has been achieved.

“We have come through the period because He was our shield but singing and chanting Victory was the trick during the period.

One of the Founding members of the choir, Samuel Duowona said without God’s grace in healing the wounded, the Company couldn’t have carried on.

“Despite our challenges we continue to press hard, we are grateful for this gift and we are confident it will be a huge blessing.”

The Multimedia Choir is looking forward to the release of the song on August 1, 2018, when it will be aired on all Multimedia platforms.

Television personality, Oheneyere Gifty Anti, known by the stool name, Awo Dansoa, has said at times she misses her single life.

The host of the Standpoint on GTV who is married to Nana Ansah Kwaos IV, Chief of Akwamu Adumasa told Mikki Osei Berko on the ‘After Hours’ show, she had not really psyched her mind into getting married.

According to her, when the Chief of Akwamu Adumasa approached her and proposed marriage to her, she was happy to take that bold step leaving her singlehood life.

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She disclosed how her marriage has also impacted other individual young ladies who were unable to take such a confident step because of past experiences they have been through.

“I WAS NOT SO MUCH INTO THIS MARRIAGE THING, HE HAD TO STRUGGLE SO HARD TO GET MY MIND TO IT. IN FACT, I STILL MISS MY SINGLE LIFE SOMETIMES, BEING INDEPENDENT AND ALL. BUT I’M HAPPY I TOOK THIS DECISION, BECAUSE MY MARRIAGE HAS GIVEN A LOT OF PEOPLE HOPE.”SHE SAID ON AFTER HOURS SHOW.

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The mother, who gave birth at age 47, however, encouraged women who think they are way too old to get married to knuckle up and hope for the best. Adding that, if she was able to get married at age 45, there is still time for others to do same.

Gifty is set to receive an honorary award in Nigeria as one of the Top 100 Powerful women in Africa. She happens to be among the nine great female who were selected in this country, including Former First Lady, Nana KonaduAgyeman Rawlings.

Get ready to crack your ribs with this video from below…

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Single people could be more likely to develop as individuals.
An analysis of data from the National Survey of Families and Households that compared more than 1,000 people who had always been single with about 3,000 people who had been continuously married in 1998 found that the single people in the sample were more likely to experience personal growth than the married people — at least when it came to how they answered the following two questions.
As compared to the married people in the sample, the singles were far more likely to say they agreed with the statements:
For me, life has been a continuous process of learning, changing, and growth.
I think it is important to have new experiences that challenge how you think about yourself and the world.
Single men may become less generous after marriage.
Based on a nationally representative survey of thousands of Americans who were questioned in 1987 or 1988 and then again five years later, DePaulo found that the men in the sample who got married sometime during this window gave an average of $1,875 less to friends than they had when they were single. The same findings did not apply to the women in the sample.
Men who had divorced, on the other hand, gave more than they did when they were married — an average of $1,275 more.
Even stranger, men who were divorced but remarried resumed being less generous after recoupling by about $1,050.
“In sum,” wrote DePaulo in the book Singled Out, “men who are single give no less to relatives than men who are married, despite drawing from one (rather than two) incomes and getting paid less to boot. And, they give more to friends than married men do.”
Single people may embrace alone time — and benefit from it — more than married people.
According to psychotherapist Amy Morin, solitude can have a range of benefits for your mental health. It may also help you be more productive and more creative.
“Time alone doesn’t have to be lonely,” Morin told Business Insider in 2015. “It could be the key to getting to know yourself better.”
Indeed, research by other psychologists has linked solitude (in contrast with loneliness) with everything from an increased sense of freedom to higher levels of creativity and intimacy.

Around the world, millennials are making the choice to get married later in life, or not at all. But while our attitudes about marriage are quickly shifting with the times, many women still feel pressured by friends, family and, yes, even strangers, to conform to a more “traditional” lifestyle.

That’s why, in partnership with SK-II, we talked to seven women who recently reached the big 3-0 about what it feels like to come of age in this “new world.”

1. “Sometimes I think my heart might explode with all the happiness I feel inside.”

― Andrea Mujica, 30, Chile

“Most women, in my experience, have a really hard time turning 30. They go through a mini-depression, and think it’s the worst thing that’s ever happened to them. I think I’m the only one of my friends who was actually excited for my 30th birthday, which just happened on June 11!

“I was born and raised in Orlando, Florida and throughout my whole life, I thought I had everything figured out. I was going to get married at 23, have three kids before 30, live in a beautiful house with my perfect husband. Just saying that makes me laugh out loud now. What world did I think I lived in?

“Instead of that traditional dream, my life took an unexpected turn. I went to live in Chile in 2010, when I was 24, and I never looked back. Now I’m currently traveling through the Americas, working remotely, enjoying the single life, blogging, and I’m loving every second of my life. Sometimes I think my heart might explode with all the happiness I feel inside.

“I never thought that I would end up in the life that I currently have but sometimes life has bigger plans for you than you think.”

2. “I’m constantly asked by married friends whether there are any men in my life, and others try and force dating advice down my throat, which is pretty demoralizing.”

― Hillary Kline, 29, United States

“Over the weekend, I attended two weddings by myself, and I really felt all the anxiety of being almost 30 and single. I will turn 30 on October 4, and quite honestly, it scares me. I thought that my life would be a heck of a lot different than it is now ― I pictured being married, having kids, having success in my job, and I am not even close to any of those things.

“I’m constantly asked by married friends, whether there are any men in my life, and others try and force dating advice down my throat, which is pretty demoralizing. To be honest, I think I am feeling my own internal pressure of being married by 30 and frustrated that it hasn’t happened yet. As a relatively impatient person, seeing your friends on baby number two, or watching kids you babysat for as a teen start to have kids of their own isn’t easy to watch. I know that it will all happen when it’s supposed to happen, but as I approach age 30, I often wonder what if it doesn’t?

“To get over this “turning 30” funk, I decided to book a solo vacation at the end of September and early October to a place I have always wanted to go: Greece. One of the beautiful things about being this age and single is that I can pick up and leave when I want, no questions ask, no need for a babysitter, no need for planning for anyone else but myself!”

3. “I’d much rather be a single and attentive mother than trapped in a loveless relationship with their father!”

― Katja Grisham, 30, England

“I turned 30 in February, and I think my anxiety about getting older is a little different than that of most single 30-year-olds, because I’m also a mother. If you’d told me at 21 that at 30 I’d be a single mum of two, working full time without any help from a husband, a boyfriend, or my extended family, I think I’d throw myself off a cliff. But I’m glad no one told me that, because I wouldn’t take back my (albeit rocky) life path for anything. I love my kids, and I’m proud to be able to take care of them by myself.

“I do get some passive-aggressive judgement from friends on a more “traditional” life path. People who are married with the white picket fence and all that don’t really understand why I’m OK with being single and focusing on my kids instead of actively looking for a partner, but that’s fine. I’d much rather be a single and attentive mother than trapped in a loveless relationship with their father!”

4. “I have chosen career over dating/marriage, and time will tell if that was the right choice. But for now, I’ll just ride the wave in my fancy clothes.”

― Brittany Goossen Brown, 30, United States

“Every day, I’m surrounded by (male) professional athletes who are always very quick to question why I am “still” single. I usually reply with a, “well I travel so much…” or “I am just so focused on my career right now” but I definitely feel the pressure to settle down, marry, and have a baby. I compare my Instagram posts to those friends of mine who took another path (marriage) and I wonder what that kind of life would be like, however I then assure myself that they are probably looking at my page and wondering the same ― the grass isn’t always greener!

“Still, sometimes I do feel like something is “missing” from my life. I have very supportive parents who have never pressured me into marriage, in fact my mother often tells me how she is envious I have had the chance to live alone and how impressed she is that I eat dinner at restaurants alone without any kind of hesitation. My friends (all of whom are married) often remark that they are also impressed with my ability to be independent when they also really mean alone. That independence does scare me a bit as I feel the longer I go being this independent “boss” the harder it will be to adjust to a partner.

“The week of my 30th birthday, I was in New York City for a work event and while my colleagues did a wonderful job of spoiling me with festivities, I had a five and a half hour plane ride to think about where my life was versus where I thought it would be. I questioned myself about whether or not I was actually happy. I still don’t know the answer to that question and I’ve now been 30 for two months now, I’m not sure I will ever know. I have chosen career over dating/marriage and time will tell if that was the right choice. But for now, I’ll just ride the wave in my fancy clothes.”

5. “It’s a little frustrating to both of us that people don’t take our relationship seriously, even though we’ve been together for longer than many of our married friends have.”

― Ka Xiong, 30, United States

“As the daughter of Hmong immigrants, I always expected to live a pretty old-fashioned and traditional life. Hmong culture has very strict gender roles: the man is the provider and the head of the household, the woman takes care of cooking, cleaning, child-rearing, etc. I grew up watching my mother cook for 10 people, and eat by herself in the kitchen when all the men had finished the meal ― so that’s what I was expecting my life at 30 to look like.

“Instead, I have a master’s degree, a great job, two dogs and a loving boyfriend who I don’t ever plan on marrying (or having children with). While my family is mostly supportive of my choices, they don’t understand my aversion to marriage. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 10 years, and we’re happy the way things are. Neither of us feels the need to spend $30K on a giant party just to appease our families. He is the son of Korean immigrants, so pretty much every family gathering on either side consists of our parents and extended families pestering us about when we’re going to make things official.

“The pressure to get married isn’t only a family thing ― some of my married friends seem to find my contentment with unmarried life offensive. I hear stuff like: “Why don’t you guys just go to the courthouse?” or “You don’t REALLY understand what commitment is until you’re married” on a daily basis from everyone. It’s a little frustrating to both of us that people don’t take our relationship seriously, even though we’ve been together for longer than many of our married friends have! We don’t need a piece of paper to tell us what we mean to each other! While I might be “single” in the eyes of the government, my family, and a few well-meaning but annoying married friends, I know I have a partner for life.”

6. “I’m afraid they’ll be disappointed or sad that my dad didn’t have the chance to walk me down the aisle, or my mom didn’t get a grandchild from her only daughter.” 

― Rebecca Smith, 30, United States

“I got home from a bachelorette party for my last unmarried high school friend this weekend. We have this tradition where the bride keeps some key decorations (and a bachelorette party-worthy blow-up doll named John, of course) until the next friend’s bachelorette party. There are a key group of five of us, and this tradition started back in 2012 when our first friend got married. Since then, there had always been a friend who was already engaged or very close so we knew there would be another party for John to make his next appearance, but this time there isn’t because I’m not engaged. Not even close. There were still the comments of “Becky’s next! We’ll keep John for you Beck!” etc., and I laughed and played along, but deep down I had to wonder if that would be John’s last appearance: I’m not sure marriage is the cards for me.

“I turned 30 in October, and am currently single. My 20s were exciting ― I worked in entertainment and hospitality PR in Las Vegas where I attended and worked at events with huge celebrities and marquee Vegas events that were seen across the world, I earned a Master’s degree, and I traveled extensively. But other than a few months-long relationships here and there, love hasn’t really been in the cards for me. I moved back to Chicago about two years ago, largely in part, because I didn’t think that my “person” was in Las Vegas and thought I’d have better luck back in the Midwest where I grew up. That hasn’t turned out to be the case, and most days, that’s OK.

“I have great friends here in Chicago who are mostly single 30-somethings as well, a job I like as much as one can like their job, and the most adorable dog that I treat like my child. I own a beautiful condo, I drive a nice car, and I travel a lot. Compared to my high school friends I do have an exciting life, and they tell me as much, but then at events like bachelorette parties, I find myself longing for a life more like theirs. Beyond that, as my parents get older I have begun to wonder that IF marriage and babies aren’t in the cards for me that perhaps I’m robbing them of something. I’m afraid they’ll be disappointed or sad that my dad didn’t have the chance to walk me down the aisle, or my mom didn’t get a grandchild from her only daughter. My parents don’t say things about it too often to me, but I know they think about it. Just this weekend my mom said that she’d like to be invited to my bachelorette party. I was like, ‘What bachelorette party?’

“I’d be lying if I said I never wanted to get married or have kids. I do want that, but when I was younger I thought it was a given. I always “knew” that I’d be married by 27 and have kids by 30. Now I realize those things aren’t a given.”

Not only is singledom no longer pitiable, but for a lot of people it’s preferable.

Being single allows you to be selfish in the best possible way – you can focus on yourself, your goals and what really makes you happy.

In recent years, science has proven that there really are many benefits to being single, just as society has realised not all singletons are tragic Bridget Joneses, crying into our wine glasses, desperate for a boyfriend to complete us.

Increasingly, research is suggesting that some of us just aren’t suited to relationships – a New Zealand study from 2015 found that people who tend to avoid conflict and confrontation were happier single than in a relationship.

Because as many singletons know, you can be totally fulfilled and happy without having an ‘other half’ – in fact, many of us feel completely whole in our single state.

Here are five very real benefits to being single

1. You’ll have closer friendships

Ever had a friend basically fall off the face of the planet when they get a new boyfriend or girlfriend, only to come back into your life once they break up? Exactly. Research shows that singletons have better relationships with their families, friends and neighbours.

2. You’ll be fitter

A study found that 73 per cent of Brits who fail to get the recommended 150 minutes of exercise per week are married – whether divorced or never married, singles are much more likely to keep fit. A 2013 study also found that happily married newlyweds are more likely to gain weight in the four years after tying the knot.

3. You’ll be more satisfied at work

When you’re single, you’re free to put as much time into your career as you like without feeling guilty, and if that’s what makes you happy in life, that’s great. Research even suggests that single people may enjoy their work more because they tend to value meaningful work more.

4. You’ll have more disposable income

Whether it’s train fares across the country to visit your significant other, presents for the in-laws or just more money spent on dinners out, being in a relationship can be a lot more expensive than being single. What’s more, a study has found that singletons tend to have less debt.

5. You’ll sleep better

With a bed to yourself, you no longer have to deal with someone else’s snoring, fighting over the duvet or mismatched bedtimes, resulting in a sound night’s sleep for you every night. And as everyone knows, when you sleep well, you’re more likely to be in a good mood the following day, which impacts positively on everything you do.

Of course, there are benefits to being in a relationship too, but being single isn’t something to wish away – it’s to be cherished.

You do you.