I’ve read them and gawked at them, and basically thought all of those women were 1) attention-hungry 2) crazy, and 3) obviously more brave than I (hello, cramps, and a certain monthly visitor).

When I decided to stop being a lurker and take on a challenge to have sex with my husband for 30 days straight, I learnt a lot more than I thought I would.

1. I’m totally insecure

Holy crap, do I have some major body issues?

Granted, my youngest child is only nine months old and I’m actually still breastfeeding, so maybe I have a little leeway in this department, but I was genuinely shocked by how uncomfortable I was in my own skin trying to get busy with him – Every single day.

I ran away, I hid my stomach, I protested, and I called myself fat — I did anything I could think of to actually not be naked.

It was a real eye-opener to me to realise just how distorted my own body image had become from having kids and to see the very real effect it had on our sex life.

2. Exercising makes me feel sexy

With the realisation that I need to feel comfortable with my body again, I got majorly into exercising last month and discovered that I love working out.

Taking the time to fit in a daily workout inspires me to eat better, take care of myself in other small ways, and it has the added bonus of giving me more energy.

All that in combination with some actual pounds lost equals a sexier me.

3. It’s so important to get in the mood before having sex

I admit that there were a few days when I just didn’t feel like doing anything remotely intimate, but I thought, well, maybe I could just do it and get it over with.

Or, maybe once we get going, it will be great. Truthfully, it never worked for me.

I realised that the lead-up — flirting with my husband, talking, and just being intimate in other ways — is super important to me before any physical intimacy happens.

4. Kids really do mess up your sex life

Say what you want about how parents shouldn’t let kids cramp their style, that it’s possible to have a great and healthy sex life with little people underfoot, and that mums are sexier than ever.

But the truth is, sometimes kids get sick, no one sleeps, the bed is overtaken, and you have no desire for anything but getting a little shut-eye.

No reason to beat yourself up about it. (Let this be the spoiler alert: we failed, OK?)

5. Spontaneity can be fun

That being said, this little experiment also taught me that there is a lot of merit in breaking out of the rut and trying to find more opportunities for each other.

I wouldn’t go so far as to say I’m going to start sticking sex into my calendar, but I did learn that when you make sex a priority and have fun with it, only good things can happen.

The young lady, who gained her popularity due to the many raunchy photos she posted on Instagram and the unusual fashion sense, disclosed this in an interview.

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According to her, she has to look good by buying new clothes, hair, make-up products among other things and cannot offer her services for free or at a low cost.

Shugagiti also indicated that many people have been sending her GH¢ 5,000.00 for free, hence cannot offer sexual pleasure for free.

Watch the video below:

On her Facebook page, the Akwa Ibom State prophetess said sex in the dark produces children who have different view of the world.

She added that women should learn how to be proud of their bodies.

No more having sex in the dark with your husband. This is 2020, turn the lights on. Children produced in darkness have a different view of the world than those produce in light. Let us light up our world in the bedroom so we can have transparency and positive energy in this world. #argueonyourwall, she wrote.

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This is 2020. No woman has the right to sleep with her husband in a dark room. The man must see the contours of the body. When you sleep in a dark room there is something you are hiding. What is wrong with your buttocks, she asked.

The renowned actress says the process of getting under the sheet with your partner makes you bond with them physically and spiritually.

In a lengthy post on Instagram, the actress said: “If you’re having casual sex with a few partners or even just one and claim you’re doing it with no strings attached….you’re full of it and setting yourself up for failure!”

According to her, soul ties are real and the bond formed between partners also allows them transfer energies, regardless of they being negative or positive, to each other.

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Tonto Dike has, therefore, advised that people be keen on right partners than giving access to multiple people to go intimate with them.

Read Tonto’s full post below:

!Anytime you have sex with a person you bond with them. SOUL TIES ARE REAL‼️If you’re having casual sex with a few partners or even just one and claim you’re doing it with no strings attached….you’re full of it and setting yourself up for failure! Two people may decide to have sex just for the fun of it, yet something is occurring on another level. Sex is enhancing an emotional bond between them whether they want it or not. One person, often the woman, is bound to form an attachment and will be hurt when a casual affair ends. Why do you think it’s so hard to let go of a partner who’s hurt, disrespected and maybe abused you? They’ve transferred negative energy into you and continue to pollute your beautiful soul with their toxic energy! SEX IS SO POWERFUL, AFTER ENGAGING IN IT, IT CAN MYSTERIOUSLY HAVE YOU LONGING FOR A PERSON YOU MAY NOT EVEN LIKE! THAT IS A SOUL TIE! Sis, does he like you? Does he know you, do you know him? How long until he stops calling if the sex stops? No matter how tough you are, a piece of him still lies in you, even when you’re through. You could be having soul ties and giving a piece of you to a demonic spirit! This isn’t a joke, this is real! You can’t let these liquored up, drugged up, chemically imbalanced, mentally unstable spirits lay with you! Stop giving away so many pieces of you to men who are already broken and could care less about building with you! You ask how do you know he’s broken? That’s what courting and getting to know him is for. Sis, you’ve got to work on you before God sends a man deserving and worthy of you! Your nights may get lonely but with God you are never alone. It’s ok to take a hiatus and give your mind, body and soul a break. Mend those pieces and get whole on your own. Only then you’ll attract the man who will value you, appreciate your beauty, and admire your amazing soul!”-Ms. Bling?”