I split up with my long-term partner about a year ago. The pandemic was tough on us, as I was a waiter in a restaurant and lost my job.

Being at home together all the time and with very little money was a real struggle and my partner couldn’t cope and she thought the answer was to chuck me out. We also have a lovely son together, who’s nearly four.

I was devastated and still am – I’d give anything to be back in a relationship with her and to have our family back together.

Recently, she suggested that I move back home as my son misses me and has told her he wants to see more of me.

However, she’s not proposing we get back together in the romantic sense, so we’d simply be living together just as friends.

I don’t know if I can do this, but I’m seriously tempted to say yes in case she has a change of heart and she remembers what a great couple we used to be.

Am I clutching at straws here? What do you think I should do?

Coleen says

I think you need to be honest with her from the start and explain what your worries are – that it’s going to be hard because you still have feelings for her.

Yes, you could move back in as friends and see if the romance rekindles, but you have to be prepared that it might not and that might be difficult for you to cope with.

So, while it’s tempting to return and hope you’ll fall back in love, I’d go with honesty and admit you’re not sure you can actually live with her as a friend because you want more.

I think there’s a fairly good chance she’s thinking (or hoping) you might get back together.

Cameron Moser, 29, was booked into the Crow Wing County jail on Friday on a charge of second-degree intentional murder stemming from the killing of 46-year-old Bethany Bernatsky at the Cozy Bay Resort on Lake Edward.

Moser is being held on $1million bond pending his next court appearance on October 20. 

Sheriff Scott Goddard said investigators are trying to determine whether the killing was a case of mistaken identity, in which Moser intended to kill his 26-year-old ex-girlfriend, who is the daughter of the resort’s former owner.

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Cameron Moser, 29 (left), has been charged with second-degree murder for the shooting death of Bethany Bernatsky, 46 (right) in Minnesota last week+8

Bernatksy was found in a pool of blood after being shot multiple times in a cabin at Cozy Bay Resort on October 7 +8

Investigators suspect that Moser shot Bernatsky after mistaking her for his 26-year-old ex-girlfriend, the daughter of the resort’s former owner

Bret Jevning, who previously operated the Cozy Bay Resort, told Minneapolis Star Tribune that the week before the killing, Moser came by the RV park that Jevning owns across the street and was looking for his daughter. 

According to Jevning, Moser was angry that his daughter had overcome her drug addiction after entering rehab, and ‘he was taunting her by using [drugs] himself,’ Jevning told the paper. 

Photos of Jevning’s daughter and Bernatsky available on social media reveal that despite their 20-year age difference, the two women shared similar features, including long blonde hair, similar height and build. 

According to a probable cause affidavit, just after 11 pm on October 7, Crow Wing County sheriff’s deputies were dispatched to the Cozy Bay Resort after receiving a 911 call about a shooting. 

The person who made the initial call said they were staying in a cabin at the resort when gunfire erupted next door, prompting them to flee. 

Less than 20 minutes later, responding deputies spotted the gunman, later identified as Moser, carrying a AR-15-style rifle and a silver handgun across the street from the resort, at the Mollie Lake RV park. 

A 90-minute standoff between the suspect and the officers ensued, during which Moser was described as holding both firearms in his hands while talking to law enforcement. 

After Moser was finally taken into custody at around midnight, SWAT team members went to inspect the resort and discovered Bernatsky lying face down in a large pool of blood at the end of a hallway in one of the cabins. 

According to the affidavit, Investigator Phil Stanley, who found the victim’s body, ‘observed a large amount of apparent blood, tissue and bone matter surrounding the victim.’

The 46-year-old woman was pronounced dead at the scene. She was transported to the Ramsey County Medical Examiner’s Office, where she was identified through a tattoo on her body that was known to be there by a family member.

An autopsy determined that Bernatsky died after being shot multiple times, including once in the head. 

Shell casings collected at the scene were found to be of the same caliber and brand of ammunition as in Moser’s rifle, according to the affidavit. 

Bernatsky grew up in the Brainerd, Minnesota, area and was described by her brother as being a high-level dressage horse trainer and teacher until about 10 years ago. 

In recent years, she had relocated to Vermont to run a paving company with her boyfriend. 

About two weeks ago, she checked into the Cozy Bay Resort with the intention of spending the winter there.  

Family and friends have been posting tributes to Bernatsky and sharing their memories on Facebook.

‘Bethany Bernatsky was loved by so many!!’ wrote Michelle Berntasky, the victim’s sister-in-law. ‘She was a friend, sister, mother, aunt, daughter, trainer, mentor, a gypsy at heart, a horse whisperer, an incredibly fun and insightful friend!! We’re devastated.’