Valentine’s Day is one of those love-it-or-loathe-it holidays, but it’s especially loathsome when you’re newly single. While everyone else seems to be coupled up, you’re plan-less and nursing a broken heart.
There’s no need to dread the Hallmark holiday, though. We’ve gathered 11 ways to make this your best Valentine’s Day yet.
Make a self-care date.
It’s time to take yourself off the back burner. Why not co-opt cupid’s holiday and turn it into a day when you practice self-care? A mani-pedi, a massage, a haircut and shave at your favourite salon ― do whatever makes you feel good and connected with your body, said Damona Hoffman, a dating coach and host of the Dates & Mates podcast.
Buy something for yourself.
You probably need a good palate cleanser after all the crappy gifts your ex gave to you. Buy yourself something you really want ― a cashmere sweater or some CBD bath salts or gummies.
Give yourself permission to be sad.
“You don’t need to do anything rash to change or numb your feelings, just observe them kindly without judgment, know they aren’t permanent and that you’re strong enough to make it through this tough day,” she said.
Watch a doc about the science of love and sex.
Schedule a group date with your fellow single friends.
Don’t get money on your own if you don’t have to. Your ex may be out of the picture, but don’t forget about all the amazing people in your life, many of whom are sans relationship themselves. Invite them over for a home-cooked dinner, go to a movie or just generally chill out, Hoffman suggested.
Have a movie marathon featuring your celeb crush.
Now is as good as ever a time to schedule a little quality time with Michael Fassbender, right?
Do some good by volunteering locally.
Use an app like GiveGab to find volunteering opportunities you’re interested in. The cherry on top of charity work? Studies show that volunteering could boost happiness, decrease depression and help you live longer.
Treat yourself to something really, really decadent.
In South Korea, singles partake in Black Day, an annual holiday in April when the not-so-lonely gather in restaurants and drown their sorrows in cheap but delicious bowls of jajangmyeon — a Chinese-Korean noodle dish swimming in chunky black bean sauce and topped with pork and veggies.
Why not do something similar on Valentine’s Day? While all your couple friends are sticking to the prix-fixe Valentine’s Day, give yourself permission to order whatever you damn please, without having to share.
Refresh your look.
New hair, who dis? A new haircut or closet revamp can do wonders after a breakup. Head to your salon and ask the hairdresser for a slightly new look. (Nothing too drastic if you’re in an emotional place right now, though. No need to put yourself through a “Why did I get bangs?” breakdown post-breakup.)
Put your phone away and unplug.
There are plenty of benefits of putting your phone away for a while. You’ll get better sleep without your iPhone buzzing next to your bed during the night, and you’ll be calmer and more focused throughout the day. Research also shows that that signing off from technology over the weekend can help you to focus at work during the week.
On Valentine’s Day, there’s an even better reason to stash your phone away: You won’t be subjected to all those couples photos on Instagram and Facebook.
Do something your ex hated.
Remind yourself that you’re free to do whatever you want, now that you’re single. Did your ex roll his eyes at your budding interest in astrology and crystals? Go to that local crystal shop and get a reading! Did your ex-boyfriend think your interest in Warhammer was weird? Go to that gaming store and throw down. Whatever really speaks to you, now’s the time to do it.
